List No.2

"7 big, fat lies we tell ourselves"

1.Everything would be great if I lost weight/quit my job/got a man, etc. No, everything would be just like it is now, except you'd weigh less, be unemployed or have someone to watch Lost with and there's a chance you'd be complaining about something new. Happiness and satisfaction come from within, and you're capable of appreciating the good things that are in your life right now.

2.He really loves me; he's just afraid to commit. Why would you choose someone who won't choose you? If he's really afraid of love, then maybe you should be afraid of him.

3. They'll never know I lied. Even if you don't get caught and life goes on, it's not quite the same. Funny how lying makes you think everyone else is too.

4. He cheated on her, but he wouldn't ever cheat on me. And you believe him because he, the guy who lied to his last girlfriend about being faithful, promised you he'd be faithful?

5. I just couldn't say no. Actually, you could have, but it's hard to say no when you know that's not what the other person wants to hear. Figuring out your real reasons for not wanting to say it maybe you're scared of disapproval or anger, for instance could help you work up the courage to utter the dreaded (yet so liberating) little syllable.

6.I'll buy it but only after I lose some weight. Maybe you will lose the weight this time. But if you're always living as if perfection is just around the corner, you're denying reality and missing out on being happy in the now.

7.If I had time I'd write a book/exercise more/go back to school, etc. You're busy, I'm busy, everybody's busy. Is lack of time a handy excuse for not doing the things you really want to do but are deep-down scared of failing at? Or maybe you can't admit you really don't want to do something anymore because you think letting go of an old goal is the same thing as failing. Just do it or just don't!